{"id":16805,"date":"2018-10-30T12:58:44","date_gmt":"2018-10-30T12:58:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sparkvisionnow.com\/?p=16805"},"modified":"2018-10-30T12:58:44","modified_gmt":"2018-10-30T12:58:44","slug":"why-do-people-ghost-out-what-you-can-do-about-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sunneez.com\/sparkvision\/why-do-people-ghost-out-what-you-can-do-about-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Do People Ghost + What You Can Do About It"},"content":{"rendered":"

Understanding Ghosting: Reasons Behind It and Effective Ways to Cope<\/h1>\n

By definition, \u201cGhosting\u201d is breaking off a relationship by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as ignoring the former partner\u2019s attempts to reach out or communicate. So why do people ghost?<\/p>\n

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In today\u2019s hyperconnected technological world, the trend of ghosting out has become an epidemic. While it\u2019s most commonly known in the dating scene, it has permeated all aspects of life \u2013 including the workplace!<\/p>\n

How many times has a company put you through the ringer with interviews for a new role and then neglects to inform you that you didn\u2019t get the job? What about an employee who quits unexpectedly and cannot be located to close out their workload? Or maybe even a colleague who decided to stop talking to you after years of camaraderie and they\u2019re not willing to speak to you about what happened?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve personally been exposed to all 3 of these examples of being ghosted out<\/a> and none of them were pretty.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

So Why Do People Ghost?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Many people see it as an easy way out. Why go through a difficult conversation<\/a> when you can avoid it? In fact,\u00a0ghosters\u00a0often try to justify their behavior by stating that ghosting is less hurtful than telling someone what they really think<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you’ve ever been on the receiving\u00a0end, you know it does not feel like the kind choice. In reality, it\u2019s cowardly and immature. None-the-less, ghosting will continue on no matter how much we\u2019ve evolved as a species. People have a lot of unpacked baggage and they tell themselves\u00a0whatever story they need to hear to justify their behavior.<\/p>\n

What Can You do About it?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

In the long list of options, very few are actually effective with your own closure and self-value.\u00a0So think these through and see\u00a0which you tend to lean towards<\/strong>\u00a0and\u00a0how you can adjust for your own well-being.<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Nothing!<\/strong>\u00a0You can go on pretending as if nothing occurred and act like\u00a0it\u2019s no big thang<\/i>. Meanwhile, on the inside, you\u2019re stewing away at all the wrong that was done to you. You don\u2019t have to talk to anyone or even acknowledge this happened. Just keep it balled up in the basement of your memory jar with the hope it will disappear.\u00a0Good luck!<\/em><\/li>\n
  2. Create stories about what happened.\u00a0<\/strong>You can go through a laundry list of all the reasons why this MIGHT have occurred. Neatly organize all the ways in which it can make sense. Typically at the expense of your own self-worth or theirs. You can tell everyone you know how awful this person was to you and live in a world of story you created for your own closure.\u00a0Sound familiar?<\/em><\/li>\n
  3. Provide feedback.<\/strong>\u00a0You can take the high ground and provide this individual with some constructive feedback<\/a> from a place of loving-kindness. Whether or not they respond doesn\u2019t matter. You have made your peace with it and given them an opportunity to do so as well. Either way, you\u2019re solid. How would that feel?<\/em><\/li>\n
  4. Move on!\u00a0<\/strong>You can recognize that not everyone has the capacity to have difficult conversations and that, generally speaking, people are doing the best they can. If they\u2019re unable to speak their truth, they\u2019re likely suffering in ways far bigger than the situation at hand. So send them good energy and move on with your badass self!\u00a0Could you do that?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    It took me a LONG time to not resort to #2! As humans, we\u2019re “meaning-making” machines and we NEED to have a story to make sense of what occurred.<\/h4>\n

    Later on, I realized how much wasted energy and pain I was creating by even entertaining those stories. We will never know why that person actually ghosted unless they step up and share it. So do yourself a favor and release it for yourself by trying #3 and #4 the next time a ghost comes across your path and you think, why do people ghost out?<\/p>\n

    HAPPY HALLOWEEN!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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