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Stop Forcing It: Discover How Personal Boundaries Lead to Progress and Peace<\/h1>\n

I pull with all my strength, but they don\u2019t budge\u2014not even an inch.<\/p>\n

My ego is shouting, \u201cYou\u2019re strong! You can do this. Just keep pulling harder\u2026<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

So, why aren\u2019t they moving?<\/p>\n

I try again, digging in, giving it everything I\u2019ve got.<\/p>\n

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Nothing.<\/p>\n

MaryBeth suggests, \u201cWhy don\u2019t you try changing your energy instead?\u201d<\/p>\n

I try. Still, no movement.<\/p>\n

Frustration builds. Why can\u2019t I move them? I\u2019m using all my strength, my muscles are straining, and my ego is still whispering, \u201cKeep pulling harder. You\u2019re strong enough\u2026<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Then I pause and think\u2026\u00a0Maybe I should talk this out instead.<\/em><\/p>\n

Finally, MaryBeth comes over and helps, shifting the energy just enough to get them moving.<\/p>\n

The \u201cthem\u201d I\u2019m referring to is our 1,000+ pound horse, Ollie.<\/p>\n


\n(Me and Ollie out grazing)<\/em><\/p>\n

I had taken him out to graze, and when it was time to stop, he wasn\u2019t having it. He wanted to keep eating. And honestly, I couldn\u2019t blame him.<\/p>\n

As I tried to muscle my way through, he just stood there, ignoring my futile efforts. Sure, I\u2019m strong, but he\u2019s\u00a020 times stronger<\/em>\u00a0and could stand there all day if he wanted to.<\/p>\n

This experience made me think about all the areas of my life where I\u2019ve tried to force my way through something, wasting so much energy, only to feel stuck and frustrated.<\/p>\n

And what about you, Angelie?<\/p>\n

Have you ever tried to push, pull, or force your way through life\u2019s challenges, only to feel like you\u2019re hitting a brick wall?<\/p>\n

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This moment reminded me how important it is to set boundaries with myself.<\/p>\n

Why boundaries? Because when you have boundaries with yourself, you don\u2019t have to choose to muscle through, end up stuck, frustrated, or completely drained from pushing too hard.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how you can start setting boundaries with yourself when you\u2019re exhausted from muscle through life:<\/p>\n

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\ud83d\udd0dStep 1: Awareness<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The next time you find yourself pushing or pulling too hard, pause and take note. What\u2019s happening? How are you feeling? Are you forcing your way through because you feel you “should” be able to handle it all alone?<\/p>\n

Example 1:<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re at work, drowning in tasks, and telling yourself, “I just need to push through this. I don\u2019t have time to get someone up to speed to help.<\/em>” Meanwhile, you\u2019re exhausted, unfocused, and barely getting anything done.<\/p>\n

Example 2:<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s Saturday, and you promised yourself this would be your day to rest, but now you\u2019re cleaning the house, running errands, and doing laundry. Your body is telling you to slow down, but your mind is saying, “Keep going. You can relax once you\u2019ve gotten this all done.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

In moments like these, notice how you feel. Are you feeling stressed, drained, or overwhelmed?<\/p>\n

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\ud83c\udfafStep 2: Intention<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Once you\u2019re aware of what you don\u2019t want, shift your focus to what you do want. How do you actually want to feel? Set an intention for how you want to show up the next time a similar situation arises.<\/p>\n

Example 1:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of saying, “I need to push through this workload alone,<\/em>” you set the intention:\u00a0\u201cI will take breaks when I need to and delegate tasks when possible. I want to feel calm and collected.\u201d (not anxious and overwhelmed)<\/em><\/p>\n

Example 2:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of powering through the weekend like a machine, you set the intention: \u201cToday, I\u2019ll honor my body\u2019s needs. I\u2019ll do a few things that energize me, then allow myself time to rest and recharge. I want to feel relaxed.\u201d (not depleted)<\/em><\/p>\n

Intentions give you clarity on what you want to experience, and that clarity helps you approach situations with more ease and control.<\/p>\n

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\ud83d\uded1Step 3: Boundaries with Yourself<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Now that you know how you want to feel, it\u2019s time to start setting boundaries with yourself. These are the rules you set to protect your energy and prevent burnout. Boundaries stop you from overdoing it when you\u2019re at your limit.<\/p>\n

Example 1:<\/strong><\/p>\n

When work gets overwhelming, you set the boundary: \u201cWhen I feel overloaded, I will prioritize training my team members so they can take over and create more flow overall. I won\u2019t try to do everything myself. If I\u2019m stuck, I\u2019ll pause for a moment to reassess rather than push blindly forward.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Example 2:<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you feel like you need to rest, you set the boundary: \u201cIf my body is telling me to rest, I will listen. I will say no to activities that will deplete me. I\u2019ll take breaks, enjoy downtime, and remind myself that it\u2019s okay not to be busy all the time.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Boundaries with yourself help you avoid the endless cycle of pushing too hard and feeling exhausted. They create space for you to live in a way that aligns with your energy and values.<\/p>\n

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When you start setting boundaries with yourself, life becomes easier. You create more flow and grace. You stop banging your head against a wall and start making choices that feel aligned with who you are.<\/p>\n

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Setting boundaries with yourself allows you to protect your energy. They prevent you from feeling drained and frustrated, giving you the Freedom<\/a> (one of my\u00a0top core values<\/a>) to live a life that feels good.<\/p>\n

So the next time you feel stuck or frustrated, activate the value of Curiosity and ask:
\nWhat boundaries can I set with myself to move forward?<\/em><\/p>\n

And remember\u2014give yourself permission to be human. That little voice inside your head (your ego<\/a>) may not like it when you start setting boundaries with yourself. It\u2019ll try to pull you back into old habits, but that\u2019s a sign you\u2019re on the right track.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve got this, my friend. Keep going. \ud83d\udcaa<\/p>\n

And if you need help, we\u2019re here for you!<\/p>\n

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Values-Driven Boundaries: How to Confidently Say Yes to
\n<\/strong>What Lights You Up and No to What Burns You Out<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Give yourself full permission to be human as you rewire yourself to understand that setting boundaries is an act of self-care, not selfishness. No judgment, guilt, or worry about other people\u2019s opinions is required.<\/p>\n

Celebrate World Values Day with us for this free experience on Thursday, Oct 17th, 12:30 pm EST.<\/p>\n

Join this workshop to\u2026<\/p>\n