40 Powerful Lessons to Live an Abundant Life: My Journey to Freedom, Boundaries, and Self-Love
For the past 2 years, I’ve literally had a pity party for my birthday. I spent the day crying, judging myself, and being a victim for “not being where I should be by now in life.” It was straight-up depressing and not what I wanted for my 40th birthday.
So, as I turn 40 🥳, I decided to focus on my abundance.
And since I’m living a very new life in the mountains of Idaho, far from my soul tribe in Baltimore City, I proactively threw myself an “Unbirthday Party” before we moved in May! (4 months before my 40th birthday)
What’s an unbirthday, you ask? Well, if you recall the Mad Hatter’s Tea Party from Alice in Wonderland, they had an unbirthday party to celebrate all the days that were NOT their birthday. A silly and beautiful way of saying every day is worth celebrating!
(Isn’t Ai Alice in Wonderland MB fun? Or kinda creepy?🤣 Enjoy this showcase of AI, photoshoot, and enhanced images of yours truly, the birthday girl, over the years. Can you tell which is which?)
I teamed up with the teachers who had been tending to my healing in Baltimore through sound baths, breathwork, reiki, and feminine somatics. And invited my friends to join me for class and celebration afterward.
I didn’t want to go to a bar or be in a crowded space. I wanted to rejuvenate and celebrate with people I love. It was divine!
Since my word of the year is “Power,” during the celebration, I invited my friends to write me a card (that I’ll open in ceremony today) of a time they’ve seen me in my power. I also asked them to write a card to themselves about how they can keep stepping into their power. It was a letter to their future selves because I just mailed them out this week! 💌
(No this isn’t a movie set, it’s my actual post office out west.)
It makes my heart so happy knowing that they’re going to get this reciprocal boost of abundant energy. It was the best decision I ever made to thank myself and choose ABUNDANCE as I step into my 40th trip around the sun.
In that vibe, here are 40 pieces of wisdom on how to live an abundant life that can serve you if it’s your 40th birthday or not, too:
1. Prioritize your well-being by embodying your values.
2. Choose a partner who is on an intentional journey to evolve individually and together.
3. Pull the wisdom from your wounds and stitch up the rest.
4. Cherish your loved ones with your unconditional presence.
5. Minimize your possessions to only what you cherish that gives you more ease and flow.
6. Share your authentic gifts with the world and your purpose will be ignited.
7. Manage your energy, not your time.
8. Listen to your body and respond to it with love.
9. Know that the best of something often comes from doing nothing.
10. Uncover your authentic self and be that way on purpose.
11. Feed your body in ways that nourish and delight the keeper of your soul.
12. Work towards your dreams, not someone else’s – especially when it’s hard or an unpopular path.
13. Love yourself exactly where you are, not where you want to be.
14. Trust in the universe to give you the lessons you need to attract what you are.
15. Honor Mother Nature – retreat and rejuvenate in her wisdom.
16. Speak and write from your soul to help others.
17. Slow down to get ahead.
18. Step all the way into your light and don’t dim it to make others comfortable.
19. Celebrate the little and the big things on purpose.
20. Take care of your inner child – listen and tend to their needs.
21. Honor what makes you perfectly imperfect.
22. Lift yourself by lifting others.
23. Surround yourself with people who love you so much they only speak the truth, even when it hurts.
24. Never be the most evolved person in the room.
25. Push on your evolutionary edges to evolve into the next level of consciousness – especially when it’s uncomfortable.
26. Soak in the medicine of music.
27. Know how divine you are and raise the vibration around you.
28. Be present by listening more than you speak.
29. Tell people what they mean to you.
30. Sleep as much as you need, without apology or guilt.
31. Curiosity is the cure to all frustration.
32. Ask deep questions to have deep connections.
33. Look for love everywhere you go and find it.
34. Reflect and share your gratitude each day.
35. Do the things that make you come alive first.
36. Anchor in the present by connecting with your breath.
37. Give yourself and others permission to be human.
38. Make your well-being the #1 measure of your success and see how your quality of life changes.
39. Have unwavering faith that everything is working out for you.
40. You can only find true freedom with clear boundaries.
And let me tell you, this last one☝️has truly been THE game-changer for living an abundant life without having the heaviness of fear or guilt keeping me from my best life.
That’s why I have a life-changing 40th birthday offer for you! It’s my “5-Day How to Set Boundaries Bootcamp in Just 5 Days for $5!” 🔥 Start saying no to what drains you and yes to what fuels you. Wanna make my 40th birthday extra special and join me?
So tell me, which of these 40 nuggets resonates with you? And what do you think I’m missing?
I’d love to hear from you – comment below. I’ll be checking and responding personally.